Be Your Best Love
Radical Self Care.
It sounds extreme. Maybe some of you would even feel like there's a stigma or selfish connotation there! To this I say: giving time and energy to yourself is not only a necessity, but a gift to others. If you're overflowing with energy you'll be a much better asset to those you love & care for. The you that experiences self care is a more present you, bursting full of love to give.
"Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it's self-preservation, and that's an act of political warfare"
When you're ready to change the way you see self love, you're ready to set an intention to care for yourself. You see that you have this relationship with yourself. Just like any relationship you want to thrive, it requires the basics; the foundation. Care, attention, communication, and trust are a few. Take a moment to journal and check in where your relationship with self could use some watering! Do you trust yourself to keep your commitments? Are you paying enough attention to your own needs? Evaluation (minus the judgment) can be so beneficial! It gives you a sense of where you're at, and some direction of where you'd enjoy being. Then you can take some steps in that direction.
List 3 things you can do in a reasonable amount of time. For example, "Tomorrow I will meditate for 5 minutes, practice a 10-15 minute yoga sequence, and end the day with a warm bath featuring some of my favorite relaxing herbs!"
Then, add the benefits. "This will really relieve some stress in my life, cultivate my relationship with myself, and even help me sleep more deeply." This will serve as motivation, and your "why".
If you need a bit of inspiration, here's a list of things I might do as acts of self-care:
- Engaging my inner child by doing art like the-dye or painting
- taking baths with oils, salts or herbs
- lighting a candle while I cook
- taking a walk or getting physically active
- singing out loud or dancing in the kitchen
- grounding/earthing (standing on the dirt or grass barefoot to recharge & neutralize free radicals)
- eating consciously and with awareness
- mindfulness meditation
- practicing yoga
- getting a massage or self-massage
- drinking warm water with lemon or tea
- lighting incense or smudging/saging off
- mirror work/positive mantras
- buying (or picking) myself flowers
- dressing up fancy just for me & adorning myself with oils or stones
- soaking my hair or giving self scalp massage
- writing, journaling or blogging
- reading for fun
Comment on my Facebook page with some ideas of your own! I want to hear from you, what are some gifts you'll give yourself this Valentine's week?