Independence from Past Regrets
July is a time for celebrating our independence. It can also be a time to reflect on claiming independence over those things in our lives that no longer serve us, and one of those would be past regrets.
There is no way around it, each and everyone of us has a past. Many positive events have occurred to shape us into who we are today. But how about the negative events? Could it be that those could serve us as well?
“The past has given you the strength and wisdom you have today…celebrate it!”
I love the daily cycle of the sun rising to begin each new day. It is as if the dark gives way to a guiding light that directs us to be renewed and begin again. Each day we have the opportunity to choose to move forward from our past regrets. Here are 3 suggestions that can direct you to a new path…
1. Acknowledge and accept it.
Yes, it happened. Yes, it is in your past. No, it doesn’t define you and it does not have to guide or rule your future. It is healthy to grieve/reflect for a season, although don’t stay there. There is too much good ahead for that!
2. Take the lessons from the past and walk into your future.
Glean the good from every situation. Keep searching and dig like you would for hidden treasure. What did you learn from this past event? How can you use it to make your present and future the best it can be? Past events and regrets can serve us IF we do the work and allow it!
3. Choose to let the good in!
We all have heard to let the past go, although that is easier said than done. It is a choice (often moment-by-moment) at the beginning of learning this practice. STOP HITTING THE REPLAY BUTTON and release that event. Just do not feed it. Say, “I choose to give this up as it doesn’t serve me” and immediately turn your thoughts to see the “good” you want/already have in your life. Simple things such as being appreciative for a hot shower or warm bubble bath. How about a fuzzy blanket on a cool night? Or an iced drink on a hot summer day? Be thankful for it! Look around. We are some of the most blessed people on the planet. Choose gratitude and allow the present good to roll in and crowd out any past regrets that no longer serve you and your new present path.
“When your past calls don’t answer, it has nothing new to say.”
Star of the Show ~ Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping)
Gary Craig, the founder of EFT/Tapping states, “The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system.” When we focus on negative thoughts or circumstances, negative emotions come about and cause energy systems to disrupt. What is tapping and how can it help? The following links give more information about this easy to use healing tool that may provide additional means to emotional freedom.